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Returnings 5-day Gathering for Grief

10th October 2018 @ 2:00 pm - 14th October 2018 @ 3:00 pm

What is Returnings

Led by Gayano Shaw, Emma Collins, Jason Stewart, Clara Clay, April Griefsong and Jude Butler

I’m delighted to be again in Wales sharing this 5-day residential with Jason, Gayano, Clara, Jude This gathering is for anyone bereaved, bereft, inert, saddened, heartbroken and grappling with how it is to be human and be alive in these times.

Join us to grapple with what it might mean to know grief as wisdom, as recognition, as bearing faithful witness to ‘what is’; Grief as a skill, joined at the hip with love and wholly mandated as part of an ennobling human endeavour…


Returnings is a time to be with others, for grief to be more than ‘just ‘mine’ and personal to ‘me’ – a time to be accompanied; to be part of creating a ‘non judgmental human basket in which to thrash around in’ with love, praise, gratitude and an indebtedness for being alive as cornerstones of our being together.

What to expect

  • We envisage sharing, walking, ceremony, ritual, storytelling, music, tears, laughter, and we will all be needed for fire and home tending together.
  • The shared garnering, preparing and cooking together of the foods that will sustain us will be part of the backbone and hearth of our being together.
  • Interwoven through our days will be the call to stillness, to praise, to lineage and the tending of the lived relationships between others, our non human world and the unseen world.

We initiate this gathering fed from our deep living and daily practice of NVC infused with and called forth from the teachings of Stephen Jenkinson (http://orphanwisdom.com/) and others (see below), as well as our lived grief and broken heartedness.

Our five days will be woven with many threads and in particular Francis Weller’s ‘Five Gates of Grief’, with our days  gently anchored within the five gates:

  • Everything We Love, We will Lose;

  • The Places That Have Not Known Love;

  • The Sorrows of the World;

  • Ancestral Grief;

  • What We Expected and Did Not Receive

We are intending poems, songs, stories, ritual, ceremony for each day to honour each of these – the gates offering  focus and intent – a threshold towards what is there for each us.

As before, our home for these days is the 40 acres conservation site of Denmark Farm Trust in Ceredigion –http://www.denmarkfarm.org.uk/ where we will be based in the beautiful eco lodges and have access to the roundhouse as well as the grounds. Most of the rooms will be shared twin bedded, with one or two singles possible…

Any questions, thoughts, reflections or to book –   Please  contact me or Gayano through the link below.  We have up to 14 places to offer.
With gratitude and love, gayano, jas, emma, April, Clara, Jude….
“How do we learn to carry our grief and not collapse or turn away in denial?  How do we come to see grief as vital and necessary and not something to be endured?  To achieve this shift requires a re-visioning of grief, not as an event in our lives – a period of mourning –  but as an ongoing conversation that accompanies us through life…”  Francis Weller
Honouring teachers/elders –  Stephen Jenkinson, Nathalie Roy, Martín Precthel, Francis Weller, Robert Bly, Marshall Rosenberg, Robert Gonzales,  Miki Kashtan, Robin Wall Kimmerer, Brother Blue, John O’Donohue, Catherine Cadden and Jesse Weins, Martin Shaw, Derrick Jensen, David Whyte, Rachelle Lamb, Vicky Peirce, Helena Eastwood amongst many others….


10th October 2018 @ 2:00 pm
14th October 2018 @ 3:00 pm


Denmark Farm
Lampeter, Wales United Kingdom + Google Map