Who I am….
I have spent more than two decades, exploring that question.
Getting lost, facing challenge and heartache, muddling my way through life’s difficulties, and looking for ways to get free, live more wholeheartedly and be here now.
I did lots of reading, connected with different spiritual teachers, found recovery in a 12-step program, did plenty of therapy, tons of personal and spiritual development trainings and, perhaps most importantly, I worked on developing self-compassion and awareness of who I am and my relationship with life.
I discovered that I am love and I am beloved.
In this moment and just as I am.
I am essence.
I am divine awareness and I am fierce compassion.
After lots of deep soul searching, and fair amount of hard work and practice, I also found out that I am gifted in connecting to the essence in others and seeing the love that shines in each heart.
With compassion, gentleness and presence, I am honoured to be invited to accompany people as they discover their essence, their unique gifts and what they love.
I love people! I am passionate about supporting people to heal the relationship with their inner critic, and to cultivate courage, authenticity and compassion.
I am fascinated by the power of words and language to connect us to ourselves, and each other. Every day, I get to help people uncover and listen to the stories they tell themselves about who they are, the world they live in and what is possible.
So far in my life and work, I have not found a problem or a question that could not be answered by more love.
Mystery. Wisdom. Love.
Presence. Purpose. Bliss.
So thank you for being here right now, reading these words. I am so glad we get to connect like this! And I am continually blown away by the joy and transformations I experience in my work, and full of gratitude for my teachers, clients, and all of my life experiences that have bought me to this place where I get to serve you!
What you get
I am an ICF Accredited Certified Coach and a CNVC Nonviolent Communication Certified Trainer with a background in Person Centred and Psychotherapeutic Counselling and Mindfulness.
I am also an international trainer offering Collaborative, Connected and Compassionate Communication workshops and a Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator.
Throughout my professional life I have helped hundreds of people fulfill their longing for authentic, connected relationships with themselves and others. I am especially skilled at supporting individuals to transform the limiting perspectives of their past stories and develop compassionate minds so they can live powerful, authentic and wholehearted lives.
The core principles of how I work
First and foremost, I shine my coaching light onto my own relationships, and keep learning and growing my own skills. By constantly applying these skills and experiences, I share my successes with you.
Working with me, you are receiving the most effective, time-honored processes to apply to your own transformation, using these core principles:
- Wholeness: You are already whole and you are following your natural urge to move towards a fuller expression of that wholeness.
- Embracing: Fully embracing both sides of any polarity (in ourselves or in relationship with another person) leads to inner alignment.
- Resourcefulness: Awakening inherent resourcefulness and wisdom activates creativity.
- Freedom: You are inherently free and always have the power to choose – even when resources or power appear to restrict us.
- Possibility: So much more is possible than any of us can imagine at any moment!
I trust in your wholeness and ability to find the answers you need to create the life you long for. At the same time, I also believe that we cannot do this work alone, and that support is essential for transforming stuckness and pain in all its forms.
How I got here….
- 1986 – 15yrs old I leave home. Not such a great move but I thankfully I get taken in by a friend’s mum and kept safe.
- 1987 – Get kicked out of school and move out on my own. That rebellious streak has not yet been harnessed for good but I discover a resourcefulness that has stood me in good stead ever since.
- 1989 – Pregnant. An act of defiance and attempt to take control of my life! Loose all my stuff and find myself homeless. Read Louise Hay – You Can Heal Your Life…find some hope and the thought occurs that I have some choice about how things go!.
- 1989 – Decide to try and get my shit together before becoming a mother! Start my own business as a vegetarian chef. Train in Person Centered Counselling and as a Massage Therapist.
- 1990 – Become a mum! Start my second business. Open and close a shop. Get my heartbroken. Get given a Mantra by a beloved therapist and teacher – ‘I am love and I am loveable.’ This has saved my life on more than one occasion!
- 1994 – Get married and have another baby.
- 1996 – Get divorced! Create chaos and mayhem wherever I go.
- 1997 – Take my children to India for 6 months to live at Solitude Farm and explore community living. Meet Om Amma and visit the Sri Ramana Ashram for the first time. Sense some islands of peace in the chaos and drama of my life. Read J. Krishnamurti On Fear and I Am That by Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj. Experience brief liberation. I start to get curious!
- 2001 – Get my first proper grown up job – i.e. someone else calling the shots and paying the wages! Working on a project for young people excluded from school, I find myself becoming passionate about social change, compassion and I get frustrated with the system.
- 2002 –More wilderness years…..try to meditate, go raw, practice The Power of Now, move house umpteen times and generally mess things up! Loose everything again.
- 2005 – Start an organization for Social Change through the arts, Portsmouth Arts & Community Education (PACE) Train as a Life Coach and as a Careers Guidance Advisor. Discover a sense of purpose but often find myself overcome with unmanageability!
- 2006 – Join a 12-step program and find recovery, peace and freedom. Deep sigh of relief from all who love me, including myself. Hard work, but eventually the fog clears and I start to treat myself with loving kindness at last.
- 2008 –PACE gets noticed and we are invited to merge with a bigger charity. We merge, things get exciting, big projects, big impact, things start to change, slowly I get disillusioned……again.
- 2010 – I discover Nonviolent Communication and my life changes completely and utterly for the better! I leave my job! My beloved, crafted from scratch, career…..I decide to train as a Mindfulness Facilitator, then to retrain in Psychotherapeutic Counseling. Move to Switzerland. Start again and set up Emma Collins Coaching. Oh and I married my beloved heart and soul mate!
- 2011 – Dive deeper into my passions for empathy, connection, self-compassion and authentic expression. Study Nonviolent Communication with Marshall Rosenberg and dozens of other wise and loving teachers. Get introduced to, and then devour, the teaching and research of Brené Brown!
- 2012 – Embark on my long journey to becoming a certified NVC trainer and continue to take lots of courses and trainings in NVC. Share my love for Compassionate Communication whenever I get the chance. I know deep in my bones that I am meant to do this work, to discover and dissolve all the barriers to love that I encounter.
- 2013 – Teach, coach, and then discover a coaching training program which is aligned with NVC – Coaching for Transformation. I am sold and decide to redo my coaching training! Basically I love to learn. I am a life long learner and just can’t help myself when it looks juicy!
- 2014 – Join the International Nonviolent Communication Trainer Team in India. Get my International Coaching Federation Certification, get taken on as Faculty with Leadership That Works to deliver the Coaching for Transformation program and travel to Texas to train in The Daring Way™!
- 2015 – The year that changed everything. My husband was diagnosed with cancer early in 2014 and in November 2014 e were told he would not recover. Everything about my life changed, my work changed and I didn’t take up my role at LTW. I began to say no to travel and things I had previously been focused on achieving. My husband was dying and we suddenly found ourselves in deep human but unknown territory. We discovered the teachings and wisdom of Stephen Jenkinson and we learned things we didn’t want to learn. We learned how to be brokenhearted and enjoy sunsets at the same time. We learned how to enjoy dancing while recognising that we were probably dancing together for the last time. We learned to look at the ending of something precious without blinking and thus we were able to make deep bows of gratitude for the gift of love and life, celebrating our enormous good fortune at having found one another. On September 1st, 2015 Richard died. He was buried in England at a Natural Burial Site in Hampshire and we who loved him miss him with an ache that defies description.
- 2016 – One year on from his death and I am still learning about grief….how it stands shoulder to shoulder with gratitude and how to dance between sorrow and wonder. I completed my Nonviolent Communication Certification and finally joined my beloved NVC trainer community as a certified trainer. Two dear friends, and fellow students of both Marshall Rosenberg and Stephen Jenkinson, invited me to hold a gathering for grief with them in Wales and Returnings was born. I returned to live in the UK and continue to put one foot in front of the other, figuring out how to live wholeheartedly while missing my beloved.